Therapists can immediately tell whether or not a couple’s marriage is going to make it or not the moment they make it through the door.
Or at the very least, it should be as easy as this to determine if someone’s marriage is doomed or not.
One sign that usually serves as a cue for a doomed or troubled marriage is the presence of non-verbal communication or contempt between the two couples. Contempt is defined as anger expressed to someone who you think is beneath you. These non-verbal cues usually come in the form of eye rolls, sighs, and even the phrase “talk to the hand” is thrown around. With these present, there’s a 50-50 survival rate for a marriage.
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What’s my take on this?
From experience, I can immediately agree with what most counsellors and therapists are saying when it comes to predicting the success or failure of a marriage. The truth is, no one can really predict what’s happening.
Sometimes I see two estranged individuals in a marriage that seems dysfunctional but with continuous work, they are able to find love all over again and make the marriage work.
Other times, it’s the exact opposite. One day I see this loving couple going into my office, filled with nothing but sweet love for one another, and in the next few months, they split up.
Like most of my colleagues, I base a marriage’s success or failure on the couple’s willingness to make it work.