Whenever I think about love surviving against all odds, I keep associating it with The Hunger Games novels by Suzanne Collins. The Hunger Games novel is, for me, the epitome of survival against all odds. Imagine having 10 other people trying their hardest to kill you. For these contestants, they needed to have the right “victory” conditions as well as having luck on their side.
So how does unconditional love survive against all odds?
Unconditional love does not ask you anything
Right off the bat, love needs to be unconditional in order for it to thrive. It should be unconditional in a way that you don’t need to be saying something like “I love you because ________”. It’s romantic to fill in that blank, but then it translates to love thriving within a “get-mentality”. This kind of love becomes conditional, or love is only there because of certain conditions.
Most of the time, we think that we are centred on an unconditional kind of love, but in reality, we are driven towards conditional love. We try to ask our partners to do this for us, or they ask us to do this for them. There are specific conditions given out every now and then to keep the love strong.
It looks healthy if you’re outside looking in, but the truth is, you’ll only end up chasing one another.
Unconditional love becomes inherent because there’s no need to provide anything other than love towards your partner. There’s no obligation to provide your partner with anything other than that. Even when you’re married, the obligation to provide financial security does not tie in with your capacity to love.
That’s why unconditional love survives.
Unconditional love completes us
You know what’s the best thing about love? It’s the fact that there’s no real reason for anyone to tell their partner to change because love does that for them. Unconditional love is difficult to achieve simply because right from the start of the relationship, we tell our partners to be this and that, and vice versa. That alone is an indication of a conditional kind of love.
When you love someone, there’s this innate desire to change for the better. Why does this happen? It just does. Our partners help us realise what we are and what we aren’t, and when we realize what we are not, this is where the drive to be better kicks in. That’s why love gives us this sense of completion.
Unconditional love achieves permanence when these two conditions are met and these victory conditions don’t just apply to a romantic kind of love as well. Observe the love that you get from your parents, your siblings, and even your friends. The love that you get from them are permanent and if you can project/reciprocate that kind of love to your partner, you’re on your way to a very happy and romantic relationship.