This page has all the resources you will ever need to catch a cheating spouse. It is part advice and part story, since all this is based on personal experience. Unfortunately, in today’s world cheating is a reality. The good news is that the latest advances in technology and psychology also make it easier for victims of cheating spouses to help themselves.
So if you want to find out the truth of whether you are being cheated or not – you can do so quickly, accurately and quite cheaply using the following techniques and methods.
Catch a Cheating Spouse with a GPS Tracker
One of the first signs of active cheating in a relationship is often a change in movement patterns by the cheater. In my case her shopping patterns shifted strangely. She started grocery shopping at odd times such as Sunday evenings. These often took hours and she’d come back with some groceries that would have taken minutes to purchase. Also visiting ‘friends’ or spending time with girlfriends became more frequent, sometimes overnight.
It’s hard to question your partner’s movements outright, as someone who is cheating on you is already directly deceiving you. Therefore your chances to getting an honest answer to “are you cheating on me” is almost zero. A better question to ask is something less confrontational, such as “is there something you should tell me?”. Gauge the reaction and see if you can find a sign that there is something he or she is in fact hiding.
You can also preface your question by framing it with “Can I ask you a direct question?”. That may get you a more direct answer.
In my case, the less confrontational question (Is there something you should tell me?) got me a straight no and some ridicule. So I was left to my own devices to find out what was really going on.
A reliable way to discover if your partner is having an affair is to use an inexpensive GPS Tracker. This way you can see if they are going where they shoudl be going. Here are the ones that I recommend:
If you live in the US
This is a portable real time GPS tracker from Spy Tec. You will be able to monitor your spouse’s movements and whereabouts in real-time from a computer, tablet or smartphone. You can even set alerts if your spouse is on the move, leaves or enters specific areas – directly as an SMS or email.
The device itself is only slightly larger than a regular matchbox. This means it is really easy to place and to conceal.
The case will protect the GPS tracker. The case’s super-strong magnets will attach very securely to the underside of any metal part of a car. It is available on the Spy Tec website. When you open the GPS Tracker page, you will find the case listed towards the bottom of the page under the heading “People who bought this also bought”. They have other cases with extra battery power, but I think that would be overkill unless your spouse will be on the road for more than two weeks.
Finally, to do the actual real-time tracking you will need you to sign up for the manufacturer’s real-time tracking service. Fortunately there is no contract required and you more than likely won’t need more than the one-month $25 fee to know with certainty if your spouse is cheating on you. This means the whole setup, including 1 month monitoring will cost about $200 – a bargain compared to what any private investigator would charge.
If you live anywhere else in the world
The safest method is to go with a GPS logger rather than a real-time tracker. This way you won’t need to sign up for any tracking service or require a SIM card. You simply make sure the GPS logger is set up, charged and then attach it to the person’s car. After a few days, you remove the GPS logger from the car, attach it to your computer and view exactly where the car has travelled.
This means you will not know in real-time where your spouse is, but it will still give you exact knowledge of their whereabouts and movements over time. That is usually enough to discover and catch a cheating spouse.
The GPS logger I recommend is this Historical Logging GPS Tracking Device:
Its size is again very small, so you can discreetly attach it under a car. It already has a magnet in its protective housing, so there is no need to buy a separate case. I would suggest you wrap it in a clear plastic bag or similar, just in case it gets into very wet conditions.
Here is a video describing the unit:
Catch a cheating spouse on the phone
The second method to catch a cheating spouse is to listen in on their phone conversations. In my case, I had noticed how my then-partner used to regularly go to a separate part of the home to “work”. I remember how once she was visibly shocked when I accidentally walked in on her. Of course she denied there was anything odd going on (“is there anything you should tell me?”). But I just could no longer ignore the signs and pretend nothing was happening.
There are products out there to directly listen in to phone conversations and phone messages on a person’s phone. These involve installing special software on the person’s phone. They work extremely well, but (apart from extreme privacy issues) they require a one-time setup on the other person’s phone – something a cheater will hardly allow. Typically a cheater will guard their phone with great vigilance and keep it locked up with their own secret PIN.
So what I suggest is to go a little lower tech. Simply use an audio recording device and leave it where your spouse regularly goes to do his or her “work”. Most mp3 players have a recording function that will do the job.
This worked extremely well for me. I only left this once in the spot where I know my then-partner used to go and when I later returned to pick it up, the following telephone conversation was on it:
“…You must be tired on your drive. I love you. To wake you up a little, I want you to imagine me in my belly dancing costume, looking all sexy for you and dancing seductively. Later on I will kiss you all over while my costume drops in all the right places…”
You can imagine how that hurt. But it also gave me the certainty I needed to free myself and my life from this unhealthy relationship.
I then told her (you may want to use a space in public for this, for your own safety), that I knew what was going on. Subsequently I also used the recorder to see if perhaps she regretted the affair and if therefore there was a chance we could still work things out. You want these questions answered. Again, the recorded conversation made it clear she was only interested in covering up as much as she could and did not once concern herself with my feelings. This gave me the certainty I needed to truly move on and reclaim my life. I was able to do so without nagging doubts if I somehow could have saved the relationship.
I hope that by using this simple devices you too will find the truth as quickly. Uncertainty is just torture. The truth really does set you free – even if it is painful like a dagger into your heart at the time you catch a cheating spouse.