A lot of people will state that they’re faithful in their relationships, but oftentimes, betrayal comes in without a warning. Your spouse, faithful as he has been for the last ten years of your married life, suddenly finds himself in the arms of their former beau or in the arms of another person. When sexual betrayal happens, people experience agonising trauma and it forces them to trust their spouse less or worse, they will have a difficult time trusting their next romantic partner.
When a person suddenly finds their partner to jump into another person’s bed, one big question arises:why didn’t I see this coming? Well, chances are there were signs that told you your partner was having an affair, but you chose to ignore them or you completely missed them.
Following are some of the most significant signs that will tell you if your husband is having an affair, some of them may surprise you.
Cheating is never okay. Infidelity can be defined by two other words, namely disloyalty and deception,and no one can really say that “cheating is harmless”, which makes it easy for people to cheat. As someone who’s emotionally invested in a relationship, you have a right to know. So, the next big question comes up: what are the signs your husband is cheating on you?
1. Your cheating husband suddenly becomes emotionally distant
This is probably the sign that everyone needs to look out for whenever they suspect that their partner is having an affair. Partners that become emotionally distant or withdrawn may be showing signs of cheating, according to people who were cheated on. Disinterest in your daily activities, friends, and your emotional and physical needs is a strong indicator of a withdrawn personality.
2. Your cheating husband gets angry easily
Let’s not be hasty here for a few seconds. Anger can be quick to trigger, even for the most patient of personalities so why is quick to anger the second most prominent sign of cheating? A cheating husband can become angry, critical, and even cruel. 70% of those who were cheated on reported that this sign was often accompanied by verbal and emotional abuse, not to mention that the unfaithful spouse picked fights whenever the opportune moment arose. If he or she happens to pick apart your favourite movie or book for no reason at all, don’t mistake this for harmless banter. Oftentimes, he or she is picking on the things that you love the most in the hopes of instigating a fight.
3. Your cheating partner has an affair because of illness
By far, the cruellest of all the signs of infidelity and this is according to 50% of those people who were cheated on. Illness of the faithful partner may cause the other to be unfaithful. Remember the lines of the song that said “You left me just when I needed you most”? In one survey, a woman admitted to her husband having moved to another woman’s house because she was hospitalised after her knee surgery. Another woman was bedridden for three weeks because she got pneumonia whilst she was pregnant, and as a result, her husband started to have an affair. Reality does not paint a pretty picture and today we live in a world where “ME FIRST” is often the mentality of others and contributes to signs of cheating or infidelity. The philosophy “if it feels good, do it” gives the idea of cheating as a way for people to cope with a struggling relationship and is combined with the “ME FIRST” mentality. Why do I need to be miserable for my partner if he or she is the only one that’s clearly and directly affected?
4. Your cheating husband does not have sex with you anymore
People are biologically tuned to look for sex for pleasure or for reproductive purposes. Married people may not get to do it as much, but the lack or absence of sex in a relationship is a sign of emotional withdrawal and physical disinterest towards the other partner. Because your cheating spouse is too preoccupied with having sex with someone else, he or she may not have the time, zeal, or energy to have sex with you.
5. Cheating husbands have multiple email and social media accounts
If your partner has multiple email address and social media accounts that cannot be justified (for example, a non-work related email address), then there’s a chance that he or she is hiding something from you and he or she doesn’t want you to see their activity on the Internet. The only thing that he’d be lacking now is a costume with all the alternate identities that he or she has.
Then again there’s always the chance that your partner may exhibit some or all of the signs of cheating but he or she may not actually be having an affair. There’s no exact science or formula that can help you pinpoint cheating husbands, and human behaviour is very erratic. The sudden change of behaviour in a relationship may not indicate that it’s because of infidelity. But when these signs present themselves, maybe it’s healthy for you to talk it out with your partner.
Who knows? Maybe the sudden disinterest in you could mean he or she is dealing with something more troublesome and he or she doesn’t want you to know about it. Marriage, or relationships in general, is a two-way street and both people that are committed to it should be working together to keep it strong and healthy. Of course, you still need to be careful about your partner who’s not exhibiting any of these signs yet he or she could still be engaged in an affair.